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Summer Wedding: 9 Ways to Beat the Heat, Tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by J.P. Lord Photography. Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

Guess what? It’s summer. And in case you haven’t stepped outside in the past few weeks (lucky you), in the Raleigh world that means it’s HOT, complete with that sticky, walking-through-water feel that only a North Carolina summer can bring.  Just wait until you step into all five layers of that gorgeous princess ball gown of a wedding dress!

Everyone loves summer weddings, including me, but in the heat of summer, doing anything outside can be tough and outdoor weddings that much more so. Here are a few things to think about to beat the heat on your big day.

Outdoor Ceremony Entrance

Photography by J Parker Photography

  1. Avoid the heat

This one sounds obvious, but sometimes it’s an easy one to forget. If you know you’re going to get married on a hot day (read any time June thru August), try going for a later or earlier ceremony time to avoid the heat of the day. You may not be able to escape the temperatures for the whole event, but this way you at least won’t have guests sitting for the ceremony, baking in the hot sun at its peak.

  1. Attire

Especially with an outdoor ceremony, take extra time to consider what your wedding party will wear on the day of. Trade the full tux and jacket for a nice vest, bowtie, or suspenders to class up the guys’ outfits without adding undo layers. For the wedding dress, try to pick something light and loose.

  1. Hydrate!

I can’t stress this one enough. Especially if you’re wearing a traditional wedding dress, you are going to be hot, hot, hot. Both you and your new hubby will be up on your feet, bouncing from friend to family member and back again. It will be all you can do to get a bite to eat (a pet peeve of mine—please be sure to get food!), but in hot weather definitely do NOT skimp on water. And don’t pass on water right to the beer. Trust me, you’ll regret it later. This goes for your guests, as well. You know how much quicker a cold beer or glass of wine can go to your head on a hot day. Make sure to have cool, non-alcoholic drinks available—and some cocktail hour snacks wouldn’t hurt, either.

  1. Flowers

Your blooms won’t like the heat any more than you do—and they also need to hydrate. As soon as you can after the ceremony, plop those bouquets in a glass of water. Your florist should take care of the centerpieces or other floral pieces, but just in case have your planner keep on eye on them to maybe top them off with water before dinner if they begin to wilt. (Bonus if your coordinator is also your florist!) What flowers you choose can help save the day, as well.  In-season blooms that don’t have to travel far will last longer, and the hardier summer varieties will stand up to the warmth better than more fragile ones.

  1. Cake or other desserts

Icing also doesn’t hold up well in the heat. While the sweet treats will taste just as delicious with dripping frosting as not, they won’t make for the best pictures, and you’re bound to get extremely sticky if you go for a cake cutting. Have your baker deliver during cocktail hour, so the cake doesn’t stay out long before the cake cutting. You may even want to cut the cake before dinner, so the cake is at its freshest for the pictures.  And then guests don’t have to wait long for dessert.

  1. Protecting guests

If you plan on spending most of the day in the sun, help guests prepare! Have sunscreen available—in cute little baskets or bins—somewhere near the entrance so they can lather up when they get there. If you plan on using metal chairs for the ceremony, invest in covers so no one burns her bottom. Also try to scope out or create shady areas for people to escape, especially during the cocktail hour.

  1. Indoor options

Remember the heat takes the biggest toll on the old and the young. If you have grandparents making the trip, make sure there is somewhere for them to go sit and cool off. If there’s an indoor element to the venue—even if not big enough for the entire party—think about making it available for those who really need it. The same goes for small children.

  1. Think waterpark!

Maybe not quite that extreme, but if temperatures are really getting up there, it might not be a bad idea to get some fans and misters to go on the tent. I heard of a bride who had a fan underneath the head table to blow under her skirt and help her cool off! Or go with the amusement park theme and get everyone those little squirt bottle fans as favors. If the venue has a hose, hook a fan up to the water source and create your own cooling station. Any way that you have to help your guests cool off will go a long way.

  1. Have some fun

Use the heat as a way to introduce some more casual aspects to your wedding. Give your programs a second purpose by having them printed as fans, so your guests can fan themselves during the ceremony.  Have a late-night snack of popsicles (Lunapops, anyone?), and have frozen drinks at the bar.  Ask your caterer to be sure and bring double the amount of water so you don’t run out.

Summer Heat Infographic

Photography by
Joe Payne Photography
Thirteenth Moon Photography
J.P. Lord Photography
Jamie Blow Photography
Azul Photography

Take it from your Raleigh wedding planner, if you have an outdoor wedding in June, July, or August, your chances of having excessive heat are great.  So plan to pamper yourself and your guests to beat the heat!  Be creative, have fun, and stay safe!

XOXO,

Amy

History of Marriage Ceremony, tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by Jamie Blow Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

Ceremony Arbor Floral and Lace

Photo By Photographs by Stephanie

Today, we’re sharing a guest blog from our friends at Charleston Carriage Works. It’s full of fun facts that will make you smile!

THE WEIRD HISTORY OF THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY AND MAKING IT YOUR OWN

Strap in, this is going to get a little weird. Marriage. As old as the institution of marriage is, it hasn’t changed much in the millennia it’s been practiced. Especially in recent history, we’ve seen tired repetitions of the same handful of wedding motifs. What was once a cause for great celebration is planned, timed, and pragmatically coded to follow the same pattern.

As a matter of fact, weddings as we have them today are attached to some pretty strange, often unsavory historical practices. We’re going to sift through history, traditions, origins, and ways to break the mould and make your wedding something that’s better than routines based on ancient procedures. Marriage is so much more than doing things the same way, it’s about making your journey with your partner something uniquely about the two of you.

Get ready to step into the time machine as we look into the past to explore some of the historical origins of marriage that are still practiced today. Knowing a little history will take you a long way when you’re stumped thinking of ways to make your special day more than a mere cookie cutter duplicate of hundreds of thousands of other couples’ special days.

A LITTLE BIT OF CONTEXT

Marriage is such a broad topic, it’s not possible to cover every single aspect of it. It’s barely possible to trace its origins entirely at all, because cultures spanning the world have iterations of marriage or the union of two (or more) beings laced throughout their mythologies, legends, and folklore. The traditional wedding ceremony practiced in the United States has certain elements that do have a traceable past and many of them are repeated today, remixed to fit modern society. It’s helpful to know a little bit about where your ceremony comes from. Some of it is cute, some of it’s strange, and some aspects are particularly barbaric; any way you cut it, the history of marriage is littered with truth, embellishment, and some things that’ll leave you scratching your head wondering why human beings are so weird. Let’s dive in.

ONCE UPON A TIME, IT WASN’T REALLY HER DAY

We’ve seen television footage of, and probably some real life experiences with, bridezillas. Those monstrous wives-to-be who freak out and obsess over every detail no matter how minute, stereotypically shouting something along the lines of “it’s my day!” You know the ones. And grooms aren’t exempt from being monstrous, but this applies specifically to women as we look back, because men are monstrous in an entirely different way.

A long time ago, marriage was anything but the bride’s day. It began as a financial transaction solidified in a social exchange called marriage. Wedding guests bore witness to the exchange, making the contract legitimate. Suitors would first come to a young woman’s father and offer gifts to him in exchange for his daughter’s hand in marriage. They’d basically pay for a wife-to-be and if the father found the price is right, she’s now belongs to the suitor. It’s a little more complex than that, but that’s the basic gist of the marriage exchange.

Fathers of families in lower social standings would often do this to raise their own financial status, boost their social standing, and/or combine families with a wealthier house. The point is, the girls to be married generally had little or no say in the matter. Today, when you see a father walking his baby girl down the aisle to marry the dapper looking guy at the other end, it’ll be adorable to see as there isn’t a dry eye in the place. However, it began as a father literally selling her.

THE WEDDING PARTY WASN’T ALL SHOPPING AND SPEECHES

Wedding parties are incredibly important to brides and grooms alike. They’re close friends, family, and foundational support during the process of wedding planning. Matching dresses, flowers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, showers, gifts, ring holding, the list goes on. Originally, these parties held entirely different roles than being a supportive group that makes heartfelt speeches through misty eyes. It was once a much more dangerous task than enduring bride-and-groom-zillas.

GROOMSMEN:

Continuing the theme of a marriage not being about the will of the girl involved, there are a couple accounts of the purpose of groomsmen and both of them involve sword fighting:

  • The more barbaric account is of the groom and his squad of groomsmen kidnapping a girl from her village/family and the groomsmen would be responsible for fighting off her defenders whilst the groom-to-be would carry her off.
  • The less barbaric account is that when a girl was given to her husband-to-be, his groomsmen would be responsible for the bodily protection of the groom. You know, just in case angry fathers tried something heinous or jealous suitors who were turned down felt like hacking at the lucky groom. The groomsmen would stand in the way and fight for the groom if it was needed.

In both cases, the groomsmen were responsible for protecting the groom. The best man was generally the best swordsman, greatest warrior, or something of that ilk. Because who wants their best man to be a mediocre swordsman, right?

Speaking of swords, traditionally the standing arrangement of bride-on-the-left and groom-on-the-right was for sword wielding purposes. Now, it’s little more than a few words included in the marriage rite when the guests are asked if anyone objects to speak now or forever hold their peace. A long time ago, objections were common and a lot more violent. If someone were to object violently, the groom had to have their right hand free (because apparently no one was left handed) to sweep a sword in defense of their bride whilst pushing the distressed damsel away from danger with their left. Our only question is, where’s the best man in all of this? Isn’t this his job?

BRIDAL PARTIES:

Because ladies are inherently queens and marriage was stacked against them, bridal parties were selfless on an entirely different level. While groomsmen were busy defending the groom, the ladies stuck together. The bridal party dressed to match the bride for a couple reasons:

  • It was a common belief that evil spirits weren’t a fan of marriage and would try to attack bride and groom. If both bridesmaids and groomsmen were dressed as each other, they could more easily fool the malevolent spirits who would attack one of the decoys.
  • Much more realistically, those men who were turned away by the bride-to-be (or, more often than not, her father) would less often attack the groom–because of his band of sword wielding ruffian bros–and more often attempt to kidnap the bride. The same dressing came as a way to confuse the kidnapper, so one of the others would be taken and the bride would not be. Talk about sisterly love.

CROSSING THE THRESHOLD:

We’re going to hear a bunch about evil spirits when talking about archaic superstitions around marriage, but the groom carrying his bride across the threshold carries a few connotations:

  • The bride was supposed to display that she wasn’t excited to be leaving the safety of her father’s home, so she would be dragged across the threshold symbolically (though often this was anything but symbolic).
  • Those pesky evil spirits would still be trying to sabotage the married couple, so in a final attempt it was believed they would wait at the floor of the entrance to the home and attempt to get to the bride through her feet. Therefore, her husband would carry her in. What happened to the groom’s soul? We’re not sure.
  • Finally, in remembrance of those kidnapped brides and bridesmaids who were carried off against their will, this would be used as a nod in memory and honor of their sacrifices (recent or historic) for the safety of the new bride.

YOU CAN THANK THE QUEEN FOR THE WHITE DRESS…

The white dress wasn’t a thing until Queen Victoria. Before that, brides would try and boost their visible financial status by adorning themselves in the most expensive things they owned. They’d stack on layers upon layer of their highest valued clothing, jewels, furs, any potentially wearable valuables that made them appear wealthy. Remember that marriage was treated as a transaction, so brides (read: fathers of brides) would be made to seemwealthier than they might have actually been. Nothing like starting off marriage with a little deception, eh? Then in 1840, Queen Victoria got married and wore a spectacular white gown. People far and wide went nuts for it, and here we are now, having television dedicated specifically to saying yes to the dress.

…AND THE POPE FOR THE ENGAGEMENT RING

The engagement ring is an ancient Roman custom in which women wore rings with small keys attached that signified their betrothal. However, it’s unclear that this only applied to marriage because some cases inferred friendship or general caring. Think of it like a friendship ring or a best friends bauble that could bear romantic or platonic significance.

But in the 13th century, Pope Innocent III widely declared that there be a waiting period between betrothal and marriage. During this period, the betrothed couple would wear rings to signify their commitment to each other. Given the power of the Catholic church, this idea stuck, and shortly after that, so did the mandate that wedding ceremonies be conducted in a church by the appropriate religious figures. That engrained notion to judge certain engagements as “too brief” comes right from the Pope.

Why diamonds, now? They seriously don’t have to be diamonds, but we’re easily stuck in our ways and follow the example of old royalty, mimicking their moves. In 1477, Austrian Archduke Maximilian had a ring made for Mary of Burgundy, into which he had set small diamonds in the shape of an “M”. Diamond engagement rings and monogramming all hit the scene at the same time, thanks to Archduke Max. Less cute is the fact that the wealth needed to make this happen made diamond engagement rings something that was reserved for royalty and aristocracy for hundreds of years until, eventually, diamonds became more accessible.

DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT

What are some tweaks you can make to your wedding that’ll change things without jarring the foundations of the earth and scaring guests away? That depends on your level of attitude, but we’ve got some modern suggestions that are certainly different from what most people are used to.

GENDER ROLES, SCHMENDER ROLES:

Pulling apart the patriarchal construct that marriage used to be, wedding parties 100% don’t have to be gender separated. Bridesmaids and groomsmen can be easily switched to bridespeople and groomspeople. Play with punny names and display your friendship outside the ancient confines of gender restrictive social behavior, it’s 2018!

BE YOUR OWN QUEEN:

Ladies, now let’s get in formation. Queen Victoria might’ve made the white wedding dress a thing, but you’re not her, you’re your own queen. The guys have been wearing pretty much anything to their weddings for a long time now, it’s your turn and you have more style options. Rock something different than the white dress millions of people are looking at. Say yes to whatever makes you shine, that aisle is your runway.

Take a page from the Vikings. Neither bride or groom in ancient Viking weddings wore any clothing of particular importance, but the bride paid close attention to making their hair look magnificent, as well as having an elaborate crown. Similarly, the men didn’t focus on suiting up, but bore an ornamented sword, axe, or hammer to the ceremony to honor Thor. Look into your own family history and see if there are elements you can add as a gesture to your own heritage while reaching beyond traditional wedding practices.

OFFICIANT:

You don’t need a priest, judge, or any sort of legal or religious authority to perform a wedding. Legally, you’ll need to have the proper paperwork done (obviously), but this can be done in an office. The ceremony itself is about having someone speak to the couple being married, someone who knows them and can speak deeper than any officiant reading out of a book. Have a friend, family member, or anyone close to you both lead the ceremony. The signatures and legal formality can be dealt with either beforehand or afterward. Make your ceremony personally relevant.

DO IT BACKWARDS:

A newish version of eloping is coming into play as a clever move for couples who don’t want all the fanfare and expenses of the traditional wedding. Some have planned a “wedding” date as a time they are married legally in a very small ceremony, leaving immediately for a honeymoon. Upon their return, they celebrate a reception with an intimate group of people, keeping the whole thing as tightly knit as possible.

Those are small examples of how you can take a pre existing structure and add some personality. In reality, the amount and style in which you seek to make your ceremony unforgettable depends on the you, your spouse-to-be, and the guests attending your wedding; don’t be afraid to try new things as you embark toward your new life.

REMEMBER TRADITIONS, INFLUENCE MEANINGFUL CHANGE

Now that you know some of the weirdness surrounding a ceremony that’s been contrived for thousands of years, what can you do to change things up? You’ve likely been to numerous weddings that are a song-and-dance you can recite backwards and forwards. What makes people so apprehensive to break tradition and make their wedding day something that people won’t want to fall asleep to?

The answer in changing the wedding game such that it fits your desires and sprinkles in much needed originality lies within the hearts of the lovebirds tying the knot. This day is for both of you, don’t worry yourselves over what people think of your ceremonial decisions. In a way, the most evil spirits that attack brides, grooms, and wedding planning are those of people who forget that it’s not their place to control a marriage that isn’t their own.

Remembering traditions is important to tracing where we came from and how we do things. Most importantly, what to hold on to and what to let go. The idea of marriage is wonderful, the way humans go about it can be admittedly less than wonderful. While we’re not stealing brides and having sword fights in churches, is there much difference in the way weddings now are often more about spectacle and commercialization than the celebration of love between two people?

Making your wedding day special requires planning and a thorough understanding of the mutuality of love to make the day as long lasting as the love you’re both professing. How you make your wedding unique lies completely in this. When tempted to think it’s your day (either of you), remember that it’s not. There are two of you and you’re celebrating both of you. This shouldn’t detract from the details and what you’re aiming for in the celebration, because, face it, who doesn’t also love a well-thrown party? We know we sure do.

Now that you’ve shaken your head at the preposterous past of some of the ceremonial marriage practices perpetuated today, it’s time for you shake things up a bit. There might not be evil spirits attacking you as you’re preparing to get married, but there’s an undeniable funk that can surround wedding planning. Chase them away from your day and plan something that reflects the charisma, quality, and journey of the love between you and your spouse-to-be. One thing is certain: as old as marriage is, love is older and it’s stronger.

Egyptian Wedding Ceremony Flowers in NC

Photography by Brian Mullins Photography

I know today’s blog was a bit longer but I thought it was some great material when it comes to wedding planning.  If you are ready to plan your wedding your own, contact us today at Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

XOXO,

Amy

Addressing Wedding Invitations: Tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by Photographs by Stephanie. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

An important part of wedding planning is addressing the invitations.  You’ve set the date. You’ve booked the venue.  Now it’s time to invite those guests. Here are some tips for wedding invites from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

  1. Timing is Important
    • You generally want to send out your invitations 8 weeks before the wedding.  This allows for RSVPs and any errors that may occur when sending out through the postal system.  Don’t underestimate the time it takes to address the envelopes. If you’re using a calligrapher, ask her how much time she’ll need based on guest count. Art takes time, so give her plenty. (For beautiful calligraphy services, check out www.theobliquepen.com.) For a less formal affair, you might choose to have the addresses printed, in which case you need to confirm the company you use provides that service (many online invitation companies do not). Or you might decide you’d be happy with simple stylish handwriting from a talented person. (For handwriting with flair, contact brich2222@gmail.com.) Still some of you might choose to hand write the addresses yourself. Be honest with your schedule to determine if this possible without causing unneeded stress. At all cost, do not pull an all nighter and do not send those invites out late because of poor planning!
  2. Etiquette for names
    • When building your guest list, know who you are inviting. What is his/her full name? Title? Significant other? Guest name? Children and their ages? All of these details will dictate how you address the envelope. So get this well in advance to save the stress of last minute phone calls/emails/texts. If you’re using a calligrapher and/or wedding planner, he/she will know the etiquette rules for addressing envelopes.
  3. Ask for the spelling!
    • Check, check, double check, triple check your spelling.  I recently managed RSVPs for a formal wedding and there was a guest named Debra. She RSVPd that she wouldn’t be attending, but included a note that her name is actually spelled Deborah. Spelling of names is a big deal seeing as how we live in a first world country.
  4. Get Excited
    • Once you send out these wedding invitations, the countdown to your wedding is on.  Get excited, because the big day is coming!
Bride Groom Wedding Ring Photography

Photograph by Photographs by Stephanie

Addressing wedding invites may seem like a hassle, and formality can feel overwhelming.  Yet look at it as a countdown to the big day and a reason to celebrate. You got this!  Here at Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, we would love to help you with any questions you may have when it comes to wedding invites and timelines to wedding day.  Contact us today!

XOXO,

Amy

Building a Wedding Day Timeline, Tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by Mikhail Glabets. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

A crucial component to a successful wedding day is building a Wedding Day Timeline. Knots ‘N Such, a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, is here to give you some advice for crafting a timeline that is efficient yet not rushed.

bride & bridesmaids in bridal suite

Photo by The Nixons Photography

  1. Ceremony & Exit Time: These are the first times to choose, because every other begin and end time will depend on these. Do you want an afternoon wedding? Do you want a twilight wedding?
  2. Photographer’s Schedule: How many hours do you want your photographer to cover? This may depend on your budget, since most photographers have set hours in their packages. Your photographer will talk with you about what and how many photos you’d like to do pre-ceremony versus during cocktail hour.
  3. Hair & Makeup Time: Who will be getting their hair done the morning of the wedding? Your beauty artists will create a schedule based on how many people they’ll be making over and what time your photos are scheduled to begin.
  4. Squad Schedule: Be sure to communicate the plans to your squad – wedding party and family need to know where to be and when to be there. Make sure they are waiting on the photographer rather than vice versa. Once the day gets behind schedule, it’s difficult to catch up, so stress this to your loved ones, so they are ready and waiting. It might be helpful for you to write this up and and email or print for them, so they don’t forget.
  5. Vendor Arrival Times: Each of your vendors will schedule their arrival time on your ceremony start time. They’ll let you know how much time they’ll need to setup and prepare, so ask for their guidance in this area.
  6. Cocktail HOUR: Going back to your photographer… Create a list of photos you want completed during cocktail hour. Make sure he/she can do all that you want in about 45 minutes. Keep your list to immediate family and wedding party only. Extended family guests should be reserved for candids during the reception. You want to keep your cocktail hour to an hour. If you go over, you may be considered a rude host. Guests get antsy, hungry, and tipsy, so be sure to join them ASAP, so the show can go on.
  7. End the night early:  This is a tip I give to a lot of brides.  It will be a long emotionally draining day, and believe me, you will be exhausted.  Confirm with your venue when you need to be out (including break down times), and this will help you set that key departure time. If you want the party to continue, plan an after party and invite key people to join you.
Bride and Groom Photo on Bridge

Photo by Danell Beede Photography

Planning your wedding day timeline does not need to be stressful.  The important thing is to communicate: communicate with photographer, vendors, bridal party, etc.  Make sure everyone is on the same page when it comes to arrival and departure times.  A great resource to have is a planner/coordinator for your wedding.  This is where Knots ‘N Such would love to help you.  Contact us today to learn more about how we can help you in your wedding planning adventures!

XO,

Amy

Being a Bride with a Budget, Tips from Knots ‘N Such, a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature image by Casey Rose Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

Happy 2018 everyone! Today we want to dive into that underlying “B” word of wedding planning: budgets.  Weddings do take money, and that number sometimes can be an overwhelming factor in the planning of their wedding.  First of all, let us tell you nearly every bride is on a budget.  Big or small, there’s always a limit.

Bride and Groom's First Look

Photo by Thirteenth Moon Photography

However, there are two types of brides when it comes to budget etiquette, and in an effort to help you plan and execute a wedding on your budget with grace and style, we want to help you understand the two categories.

The first is that “bride on a budget”.  This is the bride who understands that any budget has a limit, researches her options thoroughly, and is content with the options that are presented to her.  This bride will look back on the wedding planning experience and rejoice over the final product.  The second is a “budget bride”.  Like the first bride, this bride recognizes that she has a budget, yet struggles to be content with what money can buy for her budget.  This bride will look back on the wedding planning experience and be discontent with the final product. She doesn’t appreciate what her budget can buy, so is forlorn.

Raleigh Wedding Planner & Florist

Photo by Ultimate Images

When looking at the two types of bride, it’s easy to see that the bride on a budget is what we want for every bride, no matter the budget they have for their wedding.  Here are some tips to help you in your budgeting and planning for your wedding:

  1. Know and set your realistic budget from the very beginning (educate yourself on the cost of weddings in your area, determine what you can afford by setting priorities). If you determine a large wedding is nearly impossible, there’s no shame in having a small intimate affair or elopement. It’s actually quite trendy these days!
  2. Make a list of areas of the wedding and your budget for each category.  Here is a worksheet that can help you get started from the magazine Real Simple Budget Worksheet (do this before contacting any vendors)
  3. Research vendors that are in your budget area (staying within your budget area will help with disappointment later when you receive that estimate). Be realistic with your expectations.
  4. Visit open houses and bridal fairs to gather more information in your planning
  5. Contact vendors that meet your criteria to set up meetings
  6. Realize that vendors are there to educate and support you. Yes, we must be able to support ourselves so must price our products and services to do that. This is a career not a hobby for us.
  7. Before signing a contract, go back to that budget and make sure that you are focusing on those important details from Tip #1
  8. Finally, enjoy the process and look at the options you have and know that your day is going to be special
Raleigh Wedding Planner & Florist

Photo by McCardell Photography

Knots ‘N Such, a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, wants to share this information with you, not to scare you off from contacting vendors or dreaming big, but to help you know your budget and not look back at wedding planning as a daunting time.  Our hope is, no matter the budget, you are the bride who is satisfied with every option and gets to the day of their wedding a bride beaming with pride knowing this is the day for them.  Happy wedding planning friends!

XOXO,

Amy

Beyond the Centerpiece: Floral Trends and Tips from a Raleigh Wedding Planner

Feature photo by Vesic Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner & Florist

Close your eyes.  Imagine your big day.  The beautiful dress.  The perfect partner.  The flowers.  Floral designs have been a staple for a wedding for many years.  And designers have broadened to include flowers in more than just centerpieces and bouquets.  Let Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner & Florist, help you make your flower dreams come true for your big day. Follow along to look at some unique floral trends that have popped up recently.

Flower Crown Pink and Burgundy

Photo By: Danell Beede Photography

-Creating Hanging Flower Displays: I, personally, am in love with the idea of elevating flowers even more than an elevated centerpiece can do.  This trend can include hanging chandeliers with florals as the focal piece, inverting floral displays to give the ceiling a “Secret Garden” motif, or dangling flowers from a potted plant, glass orb, or creating a shower of flowers from the top.  This could be a unique way to showcase your favorite color, signature flower, or just create that “oh wow” moment for your guests.

Reception Arbor Sweetheart Table

Photographs by Stephanie

-Integrating Hair Pieces: Spend some time on social media and you will quickly see that integrating the flowers into your hair design on your big day will create a uniquely fresh look.  From floral head pins to flower crowns, a bride will leave everyone breathless with an elegant hair design.  

Bridal Floral Headpiece

Photographs by Stephanie

-Elevating the Cake Design: There are many aspects of the wedding day in which to incorporate floral designs; one you may consider also involves the “sweet” part of the day: your cake.  Cake tasting is definitely a treat during the wedding planning process, so maybe consider bringing your florist along to help in the design of the confectionery delight.  Floral cake design can wrap around the cake (creating a cascading feel to the flowers that might match your bouquet) or possibly a topper that elevates the cake to the next level.   

Couple's Cake with Floral Accents

Photographs by Stephanie

 

-Highlighting the Ceremony Backdrop: When it comes to your ceremony backdrop, you might want to consider: what unique touches will add to the photographs of the important ceremony?  The ceremony backdrop is an awesome place to add a touch of flowers or make a whole floral showcase.  If you are using an arbor, consider using flowers to accent the arbor or as curtain ties for the drapery.  

First Kiss Under Wooden Arbor

Danell Beede Photography

There are many other ways to incorporate flowers into your wedding and reception design.  Look at your venues and think what could be accented with a beautiful floralscape: a fountain, pompadours, staircases, etc.  The list really does go on and on, from lighting accents to floating florals.  This is where having an awesome florist and/or wedding planner comes in handy to make your garden dreams come true. Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner & Florist, would love to come alongside you to incorporate flowers in a variety of ways into your big day. 

XO,

Britney

KNS Coordinator

Bar Tips From A Raleigh Wedding Planner

Feature photo by McCardell Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner & Florist

 

Open bar, cash bar, no bar… Alcoholic beverages can quickly become one of the most expensive components of your wedding planning, sometimes even rounding out to be more per-person than your food! Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner, is here with some approaches to the wedding bar that you may want to consider before you write that check:

 

Open Bar

On the more expensive end, the open bar is the most popular choice for weddings. Many couples will often say things like “my family doesn’t really drink”, and while that may be true, there’s just no telling how people may react to the word “free”. The best way to tackle this is by selecting exactly what you would like served at your bar, only go top shelf on the really important drinks (i.e. dad’s favorite bourbon), and set specific hours of operation for the bar so your guests don’t get out of hand. You may even think about coming up with your “signature” drink and then rounding out the bar with more traditional offerings of just beer & wine.

 

Raleigh Wedding Planner & Florist

Photo by Mabyn Ludke Photography

 

Cash Bar

Less popular but a more budget friendly option: the cash bar. It can save you a lot of money in your budget, however, fair warning: many guests often come to a wedding expecting to drink, so the cash bar can be an unfavorable surprise for some. However, when given an appropriate heads up, many guests are fine with the idea, fully understand, and come prepared. Another alternative is giving your guests drink tickets to ensure everyone gets enough. You can even get customized tickets from a calligrapher with your new name and wedding date! (Note: The option of having a cash bar depends wholly on your bartender/caterer/venue and whether they are allowed to sell directly to your guests. Investigate early!)

 

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Photo by Stephen Thrift Photography

 

Alcohol Free

Dry weddings, while rare, do occur more often than one would think. Besides the obvious financial reasons, it’s also a surefire way to know that all of your guests are getting home safely! However, a beverage list of only soft drinks can leave a party feeling a bit dull. Consider having specialty mocktails concocted and make a special drink list for your guests. You can personally design the names and have them passed around on trays for a fanciful feel! Side note: Adding edible blooms to your drinks is a personal fave of this florist. 😉

 

Raleigh Wedding Planner & Florist

Photo by Jocelyn & Ryan Photography

 

Always remember to serve some kind of food whenever you serve drinks, just to err on the side of caution. (Many bartenders require it.) Even if it’s just cocktail hour, have a tray of cheese and crackers available to get something in your guests stomach before they start to drink. That’s a start! Now, contact Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh wedding planner & florist, and we would love to help you out with planning and designing your drink options.

 

XO,

Britany

Wedding Celebrations: A Raleigh Wedding Planner’s Guide

Feature photo by  Stephen Thrift Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh wedding planner & florist.

 

The wedding isn’t the only celebration that a bride needs to prepare for in the journey to marital bliss. There’s also the engagement party, bridal and/or household shower, bachelorette party, bridesmaids luncheon, and rehearsal dinner that need the same level of attention and planning to make them truly spectacular! Not everyone chooses to host these events for various reasons, sometimes only because they’re unsure of their purpose. So Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner & florist, is here to help and explain a few of the more important ones…

 

Engagement Party

This is your opportunity to make a grand announcement to friends and family that something special is just around the corner! Engagement parties let your guests join in on the excitement for the coming nuptials and also allow your relatives time to consider how much they can assist with the wedding.

 

Photo by Krista Joy Photography

 

Bridal Shower

The bridal shower (not to be confused with a bachelorette party) is when all your ladies get together for light cocktails and gifts! This is the party that Grandma gets invited to, so it’s usually a bit classier.  By the time of the bridal shower,  you want to have your bridal party selected and ready, because they can help with things like sending invitations, sorting your gifts, and arranging for food and drinks. The bridal shower is your cue to sit back and relax, knowing that your wedding is just around the corner and and all your favorite ladies are there with you!

 

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Photo by Mabyn Ludke Photography

 

Rehearsal Dinner

The rehearsal is perhaps the most important pre-wedding event, since it prepares everyone involved in your wedding party and lets them know exactly where to be and when to be there! That aside, these are some of your closest friends and family that have perhaps traveled and taken time off work just for you, so it’s important that you treat them to a nice evening afterward to show them how much you appreciate their investment to making your wedding perfect.

 

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Photo by Riley Maclean Photography / Food by Durham Catering Company / China from American Party Rentals

 

I know preparing for your wedding can seem overwhelming at times, which is all the more reason to allow yourself these extra chances to relax with your loved ones (and open some presents!) before you say “I do”. A great point to remember in this journey is a great planner is happy to take care of every little detail, from your engagement party to your reception, to ensure that your entire wedding experience is nothing but joyful!

 

XO,

Britany

 

Proposals: Tips From a Raleigh Wedding Planner

Featured photo by Jocelyn & Ryan Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh wedding planner and florist.

 

It’s the most important question that needs to be answered during the wedding planning process: “Will you marry me?” More and more people are proposing in grandiose ways! Here are a few of our favorite love stories that we’re hoping you can draw inspiration from!

 

Carrie & John

Being in politics, Carrie was distracted by the busy election season. So, John was easily able to plan a special evening for her that she would never forget. Under the guise of a combined birthday and anniversary dinner, John planned a romantic event. John took Carrie to dinner at The Fearrington house in Chapel Hill, where he insisted they explore the grounds before going into the restaurant. Carrie was confused since it was raining and they were already late for their reservation! But very quickly it made sense, the moment came, and John took her by the hands, got down on one knee, and asked “Will you be my wife?” After dinner, John recommended that they head into Raleigh to see his twin brother, who was hosting a fraternity reunion. Carrie happily obliged, and after arriving at the Capital Club, John led Carrie to a back room where all of their closest friends and family had gathered to celebrate the engagement. A lot of tears and hugs followed and truly made the night a special one for all involved.

 

KNS shares a picture of Ring Photo on Gold Geometric Decorations

Photo by Thirteenth Moon Photography

 

Colin & Marianne

Talented musicians and vocalist, Colin and Marianne, took a walk in Central Park one evening. Out of the blue, they turned a corner, and a huge group of their best friends were standing in a circle and started singing “Let’s Stay Together” in a-cappella harmony. Colin sang the solo, of course, and went down on one knee and showed Marianne the ring. It was magical! He had an engagement party planned for that evening with all the friends who had come into town for the engagement!

 

Photo by Krista Joy Photography

 

Amy & Taylor

On the way back from visiting their families on Christmas night, Taylor confessed he was having trouble finding the perfect vintage engagement ring. When they got home, he told her to wait in the car while he ran upstairs to their apartment. When she got inside, he was on one knee surrounded by sticky notes (an inside joke) in the shape of a heart on the floor. Each little note included a handwritten message telling her how much he loved her. The next day, they went shopping together to pick out a ring.

 

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Photo by Ginny Corbett

 

With so many perfect love stories out there, it can be easy to be intimidated about how to pop the question! Just remember to make your engagement as unique as your love and the answer is sure to be “yes”!

 

XO,

Ivana

KNS Coordinator

 

A Raleigh Wedding Planner Spotlight: The King’s Daughters Inn

Feature photo by McCardell Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh wedding planner & florist.

 

There are a lot of fantastic wedding venues in the triangle, but The King’s Daughters Inn has captured our attention with its nuanced aesthetic and historic charm!

 

About

The King’s Daughters Inn makes a great first impression, being utterly stunning inside and out! However, this beautiful venue isn’t superficial; it has some wonderful philosophies that you can feel good about when you book! Since 2009, Colin and Deanna Crossman have run the Inn with the same core values:

  • Protect and restore the historic architecture for future generations
  • Respect the environment
  • Incorporate the most current technologies available

 

Reception Venue Shades of White and Light

Photo by Ginny Corbett Photography

 

The Difference

This historic location includes some uniquely beautiful features that won’t be found anywhere else! The rooms all differ, and from bed frames to wall color, each one possesses its own charm. Being conveniently located doesn’t hurt either! The King’s Daughters Inn is right near downtown Durham, which is home to the Durham Performing Arts Center as well as several wonderful restaurants, giving your friends and family plenty to do during their stay!

 

Gold Geometric Centerpiece

Photo by Thirteenth Moon Photography

 

Packages

The King’s Daughters Inn has 3 event rooms to choose from:

  • The Dining Room: perfect for a family breakfast, bridal luncheon, rehearsal dinner, or tea party
  • The Parlor: this is a great room to host an intimate wedding ceremony, cocktails, or afternoon tea
  • Brodie Duke Hall: the ideal space for a night of dancing, bridal party yoga sessions, or even a room for the groomsmen to hang out before the wedding!

 

If you decide to book the entire inn, there are definitely some perks involved!

  • Exclusive use of the inn – 20,000 square feet including 3 event spaces and 17 luxury rooms and suites
  • Overnight accommodations for 46
  • Gourmet breakfast for all overnight guests
  • Great vignettes for unique wedding photos
  • Complimentary use of tables, chairs, linens, glassware, and setup
  • Full commercial kitchen available to your choice of licensed caterer

 

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Photo by Ultimate Images

 

With so many wonderful amenities available to brides, it’s no wonder why The King’s Daughters Inn is the recipient of so many prestigious awards, including, the AAA Four Diamond, the Chamber of Commerce Business Excellence Award for Sustainability, and the Golden Leaf Award! Definitely consider The King’s Daughters Inn for your wedding or events of any kind!

Need help finding the perfect venue in the Raleigh, Chapel Hill, or Durham area? Call us here at Knots ‘N Such for custom recommendations!

XO,

Ivana

KNS Coordinator

 

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