There comes a time in everybody’s wedding planning process where you’ve tackled all the big projects but you’re still a month or two away from really needing to hammer down the specific, tiny, day-of details.
In my experience as a Raleigh wedding planner, couples with a 12 month engagement cycle usually fall into this about halfway through at about the six-month mark.
For many of you, especially those hyper-organized over-achieving types (like me, full disclosure), this can be a little disconcerting. You may find yourself sitting at your kitchen table staring at your giant binder full of wedding planning materials—color-coded and studded with Post-its—and panicking because you’re not doing anything but you feel like you should be.
Take a breath, take a beat and step back.
If you’ve done you’re planning right, it’s normal to have something of a lull at this point in the process. You’ve signed all your major vendors, you’ve picked out your dress, ordered your bridesmaid attire—or you’ve decided to not go through a bridal shop, where long delivery times are an issue—and it’s not yet time to start worrying about detailed day-of timelines, items lists or any of that kind of stuff yet.
Note, if you haven’t signed all of your major vendors or you found your wedding dress or your girls’ gowns and do want to go through a bridal shop, this post doesn’t apply to you. You’ve still got some work to do!
But for the rest of you, this is a prime opportunity to focus on some of the more creative aspects of wedding planning. It’s not that you have nothing to do, it’s just that you’re kind of in between the major milestones.
This is a prime time for you to start focusing on any of those DIY crafty projects that you’ve been thinking about since your fiancé popped the question. Anything along the lines of kids’ activity books, table numbers or signs for the escort card and gift table that you were planning on making, get a jump start on those.
Go ahead and make a prototype, figure out exactly how you want it to look, then invite over your girls or spend the afternoon with your mom. Some DIY projects can take longer than expected, so it’s a good idea to get those started early and before you have some more pressing items on your plate.
This is also a great time to go on a couple of dates with your fiancé. It’s really easy for a lot of brides to get so consumed with wedding planning they forget that they are already in a relationship, you know, with another person. Don’t neglect the love that got you here in the first place!
Go ahead and get organized. I know, I know. Put those eyebrows back down, bite back your retort on how you’re the queen of binder dividers, and use this extra time to really take inventory. Have all of your bridesmaids actually ordered their dresses? Are there any loose ends you need to get back to vendors about that you’ve been putting off? Do you need to adjust the timeline at all now that you have a better handle on what you need to do?
Take some time for you! Spend a night with your girls, paint your nails, go to the spa, pass an afternoon practicing different hairstyles. Things are going to get real busy down the line, so don’t feel bad about pampering yourself a bit now before the crazy hits.
Bottom line, take the inevitable down time you experience at points throughout your engagement to indulge in some of the more fun aspects of wedding planning that often get shoved to the side. You have the time now to putz with some things—do it! And if you need a little bit of direction (or even just some affirmation), don’t be afraid to call your wedding planner. We’re always here to help!