Unique Groomsmen Gifts, tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image – Personalized Flask From Groovy Guy Gifts. Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

If you spend a lot of time around weddings, you begin to see that the wedding party adds some spice to the wedding day.  A great set of groomsmen and bridesmaids will make the celebration a party for all involved. The bride and groom should really thank their wedding party with a small token of their appreciation.  This gift in no way has to be boring! Today on Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, we are talking unique groomsmen gifts. Check out Groovy Guy Gifts because we are big fans of their personalized and memorable gifts to the guys standing by your man on the big day; they made the featured flask with my caricature and title on it! (Why, yes, I do consider myself a goddess! haha!)

Groomsmen Photo

Photography by Kate Pope Photography

Some Unique Ideas Gleaned from The Groovy Guy Gifts Website

  • Personalized Flask, Beer Mug, Shot Glass, Decanters, or Other Fancy Barware Related Gift
  • Coffee Mug for the House or To Go
  • Money Clip or Wallet
  • Travel Gear like a Shaving Kit, Duffel Bag, Backpack, or Other Bag
  • Sporting Equipment like a Bat, Hockey Puck, Football, Etc.
  • Knives or Axes (don’t bring these to the wedding! lol)
  • Cool Set of Sunglasses (might even make a cool group photo!)
  • Something for the Cigar Lovers Out There like a Box or Lighter
  • Wooden or Pocket Watches
  • Individual Bobbleheads

Three Things to Keep in Mind for the Gifts:

  • Personable
    • You want the gift to speak to who you are and who your groom is.  Engraving and personalization will go a long way to making the gift unique and special.
  • Memorable
    • You want it to be something that the recipient will want to keep.  When they look back at the gift, you want them to remember your wedding day and your relationship to them.
  • Relatable
    • You want to, as much as possible, make it connect with the recipient.  Do: give a personalized football to the person who you spend every Saturday with watching the game.  Don’t: give an engraved shot glass to a non-drinker. Maybe that means everyone doesn’t get the same gift and that’s okay!
Groomsmen Cheers

Photography by J.P. Lord Photography

It is important to show your gratitude to the people that are standing by you on your big day.  Taking time to shower them with a personalized gift will speak volumes to them. Groomsmen gifts don’t have to be boring.  Thanks again to great businesses like Groovy Guy Gifts who help us all out with that unique touch.  

Sometimes details like the gifts can be forgotten.  Feeling like you’re forgetting some of the details? Contact Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, today, and we would love to help you with the details.

XOXO,

Amy

 

Choosing A Wedding Invitation Suite, Tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature image by Nieto Photography, invitation by The Oblique Pen.  Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

Chosen a date, time, and venue ✔️

Chosen a color palette & style ✔️

Chosen attire & flowers ✔️

If you said yes to the above items, it’s time to start thinking about your wedding invitation suite.  This will be your guests’ first peek into your wedding day, setting the style, colors, and theme for your big day.  Follow along in today’s blog as Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, gives some helpful tips in picking out your perfect wedding invitation suite.

Wedding Floral Invites

Photograph by Photographs by Stephanie

  • Choose a Wedding Style and Color Scheme
    • Choosing this early will help you craft your invitation suite. You want your motif to shine through in every choices, even the paper products! The invitation is important for letting your guests to know date, time, and location, but also for setting the formality and vision of your wedding.
  • Choose Elements that let your Personality Shine
    • There is room to be creative and let those personal touches shine through.  Maybe you love the feel of letterpress on a heavy paper. Or maybe you love printing on acrylic or metal. Or maybe you like odd shapes and sizes. Let the invites communicate your motif and your personality.
  • Choose Prudently within your Budget
    • As a planner, one of my responsibilities is to keep your budget in check. I work in “wiggle room” so you can splurge in a few areas, but not all. So look at the overall picture and decide if invitations are one of those areas that’s a priority for you. Knowing what you’re able and willing to spend will be a big determining factor in what suite you can choose.
  • Choose Wording Wisely
    • Make sure the wording is clear and easy to understand. Font plays into this as well, so choose something legible. Make sure your guests are able to answer your requests via the invites –  RSVP deadline, meal choices, or song requests.  Also, consider having multiple parts to the invitation, since too much information on one page can cause confusion.
  • Choose with a Time Frame in Mind
    • Your invitations will take time to prepare. Your guests need time to plan to attend. Factor these into determining when you need to finalize your suite. Save-the-dates need to be mailed by 6-7 months pre-wedding and invitations need to be mailed by 7-8 weeks pre-wedding.
  • Choose a Cohesive Style
    • As mentioned already, it’s important to have multiple items in your wedding paper suite. Some things to consider include: Save the Dates, Invitations, RSVP cards, Menus, Programs, Thank You Notes, Signage, Etc.  A designer can help create a suite that utilizes a similar theme, even if the design varies from element to element.  Creating a cohesive suite from the beginning can be a time and cost saving touch.
  • Choose a Proofreader
    • Before you have all the invites printed and ready to be sent out.  Choose a person you trust to proofread the writing for correct spellings, information, and legibility.  Having someone with fresh eyes will be super helpful. Your paper designer can even make mistakes, so be sure to do this!

Photo by Riley Maclean Photography, invitation by Cute Buttons

We hope these tips will help you in creating your sweet suite for your big day.  If you have any questions or are seeking a planner in helping with details like the wedding invite, contact Knots ‘N Such today!

XOXO,

Amy

 

 

Planning a Destination Wedding, Tips by Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by McCardell Photography. Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

Summer has been in high gear lately, and if you are like me a bit of wanderlust may have set in.  You might have a desire to visit the cool, fresh air of the mountains Or catch some rays at the beach.  Whether flying to an international destination or sailing the high seas in America, summer definitely is a jet setting time.  Today on the blog, Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, is bringing you tips if jet setting is a part of your wedding plans.  Many people dream of an intimate wedding on the beach or at a European hot spot, but don’t know quite where to begin.  Here are 5 tips that will definitely be helpful to you in getting started!

  • Plan a location that is meaningful to you as a couple
    • First and foremost, this is your wedding.  Choose something that is meaningful to who you are as a couple for that personal touch. How about the location of your first vacation together, or the spot where he proposed, or a place that’s been on both your bucket lists for years. Make it memorable and possibly a place that you will visit again in the future. For me, that spot was in the area where I grew up and the spot where my husband fell in love with that area – the mountains of Virginia.
  • Plan well in advance
    • Unless you’re planning to elope alone as a couple, you don’t want a destination wedding and all its details to be a last minute affair.  It’s best to keep the guest list intimate and recognize the planning that will go in on their end as well.  Like in the previous mention, choose something that is personal, but make sure lodging and travel are relatively easy for your guests.  Also consider the weather – is it hurricane season?  blizzard conditions?  We can’t predict the weather, but we can make educated decisions based on the likelihood of these things.
  • Plan around your setting to help save your budget
    • You are probably not going to be able to travel with each and every knickknack you want to include in your wedding and are going to need to rely on local vendors.  That being said, when planning decorations and other parts of the ceremony, let the local decor shine through.  If at the beach, let the ocean and local blooms be a backdrop.  In Italy, incorporate olive branches and grapes.  Keep it simple, so you can enjoy the trip as well.
  • Plan for a wedding planner in your budget
    • Hire a pro to help be an intermediary between you and your destination vendors. Let them help you with your budget and with incorporating personal and site inspired ideas into your ceremony and reception.  You might hire a local planner here or one that is in your destination area who knows the ins and outs of the market there. If hiring locally here, plan to have her/him travel with you to provide the necessary coordination services. It’s customary to cover her expenses in this scenario in addition to the standard fee. It will be so helpful for you to have an expert in your corner on the trip.
  • Plan your travel and pack wisely
    • You’re probably going to want to make a quick visit before the wedding, a few days ahead of your guests.  This will be helpful in eliminating surprises.  You are going to have some last minute decisions to make and want to make sure everything is set for the big day.  This will also allow for some rest and relaxation too.  Plan wisely when it comes to packing as well.  Baggage fees can be quite hefty these days.  So like we said earlier, let the local vendors be in charge of decor.  Think also about how you will be dressed the day of your wedding.  Does the dress travel well?  Will it work in the climate where you’re visiting?  Talk at length with your wedding planner to be sure all scenarios have been carefully thought through.

I know this seems like a lot of planning and you might be thinking “I just want to get away!”  Destination weddings have different aspects to consider in the planning process, but with the right approach, it can leave you with some beautiful and meaningful memories. (Plus some pretty awesome photographs.)  Need help in planning that destination or local wedding,  please contact Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, today!

XOXO (and happy travels),

Amy

Durham Wedding Exchange, Local Venue Spotlight, a Post by Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image from The Wedding Exchange 

Interview by: Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

If you were to spend some time roaming the Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill Area, you would quickly find out that we are quite blessed with an abundance of amazing wedding venues. (And brides still have trouble finding a venue during peak season!)  The Triangle area is rich with history and charm to fit pretty much any wedding theme you could think of.  The Wedding Exchange in Durham is one such venue.  Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, was able to catch up with Amy Henning, the Marketing Manager, at the Wedding Exchange in Durham and find out more about this new & promising venue!

 

  • What is the history of the building? How does the venue reflect that historic charm?
    • The John O’Daniel Exchange building (where The Wedding Exchange is located) was built in 1917 and was originally a hosiery mill. It later became the Farmer’s Exchange and was a staple in Durham. We still have Durham natives who tour our building and remember when it was the Farmer’s Exchange. The building held a few other businesses before falling into disrepair. In 2008, our building owner Wendy Clark renovated the building and reopened in 2009. The building now houses 24 offices, 2 conference rooms and 1 event space – The Wedding Exchange.
    • The venue has been completely renovated, and we installed hardwood floors to mimic the original floors in the building. The venue’s original brick walls are still intact, and we are in the process of upgrading the space so that it can function more efficiently and beautifully as a wedding venue.
  • When did The Wedding Exchange open (history of the business)?
    • In 2017 we began marketing the event space in the John O’Daniel Exchange as a wedding and event venue. Since then we’ve hosted wedding receptions, baby showers, corporate events, parties, repass dinners and more! We love serving the Durham community and being a part of their celebrations.
  • In a nutshell, how would you describe The Wedding Exchange?
    • The Wedding Exchange is an intimate, industrial space located minutes from downtown Durham. We can seat up to 80 guests, and the market lights and hardwood floors add an element of industrial charm to our venue.
  • What is the process of booking and planning a wedding at The Wedding Exchange?
    • We book a tour of the venue with the bride or couple and any key decision-makers. Once we receive the signed contract and deposit ($250 + 50% of the rental fee), the space is secured. The remaining balance is due 90 days before the wedding. 30 days before the wedding, we do a final walk through with the planner and couple to write down what we need to put in place the day of the wedding, and receive signed catering agreements, bartender agreements, and event insurance.
  • What is one of your favorite wedding memories at the venue?
    • Our first bride married a man who was originally from Barbados. They had an intimate ceremony, and his family was able to watch and celebrate with them remotely. We love that they were able to customize a cross-cultural ceremony in a way that fulfilled their dreams and matched their personalities.

 

The Wedding Exchange in Durham is a beautifully charming venue that you must see to appreciate. I cannot wait to see their future renovations, because the verbal description alone made my design mind go wild! If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that industrial chic is my favorite venue style. So I’m ridiculously excited to have another option in Durham. From this Amy at Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, we want to thank Amy at the Wedding Exchange in Durham for sharing her time to paint such a beautiful picture of this venue. Check them out today!

 

Looking to plan your wedding at one of the fantastic venues in the Triangle or Triad? Reach out to Knots ‘N Such today, and we can help you find the perfect location!

XOXO,

Amy

Finding a Wedding Photographer, tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by Jamie Blow Photography.  Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

Beyond a wedding planner, a wedding photographer should be one of the first vendors you secure for your wedding day.  Think about it: at the end of the day, a great photographer is going to capture images that will stand the test of time and capture memories from your beautiful day.  If you spend time on Wedding Wire or other sites that list photographers, you will find the list to be expansive and maybe overwhelming.  Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, is here to help with 4 things to consider when trying to decide on your wedding photographer.

Couple Photo Stairs

Photography by J.P. Lord Photography

  1. The Photographer’s Style and Vision
    • In the digital world, most photographers have websites.  I strongly suggest spending time on a photographer’s website and search their galleries/portfolios.  Just like you have a theme and vision for your wedding day, you want to find a photographer whose eye matches your theme and vision.  You want them to tell your story and capture your personality.  This is also a great time to analyze the photographer’s background like how long they have been shooting weddings and have they worked with your particular venue before.
  2. The Photographer’s Availability
    • Another vital component of choosing a photographer is their availability of your wedding date.  You want to make sure that the photographer that you desire to capture your wedding is not already booked for your specific date.  Some photographers work for companies, so also making sure that when you are securing them to shoot your wedding, they are the specific photographer that will be there.  If not, making sure to meet with the actual photographer before signing a contract would be helpful.
  3. The Photographer’s Investment and Packages
    • Photographers are a vital investment in your wedding day.  Spending time comparing photographer’s style and vision should be coupled with spending time comparing investments and packages will be helpful in narrowing down your list.  What is included in their base package?  What add ons can be included?  How many hours will they be available on your wedding day?  These are all questions to consider when choosing and budgeting for your photographer.  You also will want to consider print releases and the photographer’s preferred method of ordering prints after the wedding.  This will help you not have any surprises post-wedding as well.
  4. The Photographer’s Logistics
    • Wedding planning has many logistics to think through and plan for on your big day.  Photographers also have several variables and logistics to consider.  Second shooters, food, travel, liability insurance, preferred vendors, etc. are all things that need to be considered when securing your photographer. This is where a wedding planner, like Knots ‘N Such, can help you think through logistics that you might not have thought through before and what questions to consider when building a contract with a photographer.
Egyptian wedding ceremony in Raleigh NC, bride & groom with bouquet

Photography by Brian Mullins Photography

When choosing a wedding photographer, there are many factors to consider.  It is okay to spend some time looking through websites, setting up initial meetings, and comparing investment packages.  Remember two of the most important vendors to contract first will be your wedding planner and your photographer.  If you need help in choosing vendors and knowing which photographer is right for you, contact Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, today.  Look forward to hearing from you soon!

XOXO,

Amy

 

Pinning Like a Pro: Wedding Planning Pinterest Tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by J.P. Lord Photography.  Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

Pinterest is an amazing resource, and even I have to be careful, because it can become a black hole of time, sucking me in for way longer than I expected.  As a wedding planner, I love it as a resource to see into a bride’s mind and vision.  When meeting with a bride, I always ask to be a collaborator on their boards, whether public or private.  It helps me connect with them and give a visual clue to how they picture their big day.  Pinterest though is a massive resource and sometimes can be overwhelming for an already overwhelmed bride.  Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, is here today to provide my top 3 tips on how to pin like a pro and not become overwhelmed by the vast limits of Pinterest’s space.

Bridal Bouquet used as centerpiece for sweetheart table

Photography by Novitsky Photography

  1. Be Inspired but Organized
    • The purpose of Pinterest is to be inspired.  It can help shape your vision, bring out your likes and dislikes, or even help with the color scheme. You are bound to find something for every part of your wedding-from save the dates to creative thank you notes.  The key is to use it for inspiration not replication of someone else’s wedding. Also, it is very easy to create a board of 1000 images, but that almost defeats the purpose, as you want to go back to the thing that inspired you, not get lost in a huge board of images.  You don’t want to lose your inspiration in the midst of clutter.  Pinterest also has added sub-boards in the main board to help you organize in categories, maybe “centerpieces” or “bouquets”. Organization will help you and your planner be inspired by what first inspired you.
  2. Set Realistic Expectations
    • With any type of social media, you need to go in realizing that you are viewing a highlight reel of someone’s life.  Pinterest is no exception.  I am sure we have all had a fail or two by something we tried to replicate from social media.  When searching through Pinterest images, keep your expectations in check.  What can be achieved?  What is within your budget?  Are those blooms in season for your wedding date?  If you go in with realistic expectations, then you will be a more satisfied bride on your big day.
  3. Leave Room for Personal Style
    • Just because you are using Pinterest as a resource for your big day does not mean it is the only resource for helping plan your wedding.  You can look elsewhere to help shape your big day. For instance, maybe you find an article that states what a trending color is for this wedding season but you want to incorporate your signature color into your wedding, don’t forgo your style just because someone else said so.  Don’t be limited in finding inspiration from other sources, like a wedding planner or a fashion blog.  It’s okay to log off for a while and find inspiration beyond the screen.
Head table with bride and groom chairs

Photography by Jamie Blow Photography

Wedding Planning has definitely gotten boosts in our technologically driven world.  I mean, how did we plan a wedding without social media before?! I think in planning it is important to see these resources as helpful tools rather than the end all be all.  You want to have your day, not someone else’s day.  If you are needing help in crafting your personal day, contact Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist today, and let us help you use your inspiration to create your magical day! Also take some time to check out our Pinterest board to see what inspires us.

XOXO,

Amy

Summer Wedding: 9 Ways to Beat the Heat, Tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by J.P. Lord Photography. Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

Guess what? It’s summer. And in case you haven’t stepped outside in the past few weeks (lucky you), in the Raleigh world that means it’s HOT, complete with that sticky, walking-through-water feel that only a North Carolina summer can bring.  Just wait until you step into all five layers of that gorgeous princess ball gown of a wedding dress!

Everyone loves summer weddings, including me, but in the heat of summer, doing anything outside can be tough and outdoor weddings that much more so. Here are a few things to think about to beat the heat on your big day.

Outdoor Ceremony Entrance

Photography by J Parker Photography

  1. Avoid the heat

This one sounds obvious, but sometimes it’s an easy one to forget. If you know you’re going to get married on a hot day (read any time June thru August), try going for a later or earlier ceremony time to avoid the heat of the day. You may not be able to escape the temperatures for the whole event, but this way you at least won’t have guests sitting for the ceremony, baking in the hot sun at its peak.

  1. Attire

Especially with an outdoor ceremony, take extra time to consider what your wedding party will wear on the day of. Trade the full tux and jacket for a nice vest, bowtie, or suspenders to class up the guys’ outfits without adding undo layers. For the wedding dress, try to pick something light and loose.

  1. Hydrate!

I can’t stress this one enough. Especially if you’re wearing a traditional wedding dress, you are going to be hot, hot, hot. Both you and your new hubby will be up on your feet, bouncing from friend to family member and back again. It will be all you can do to get a bite to eat (a pet peeve of mine—please be sure to get food!), but in hot weather definitely do NOT skimp on water. And don’t pass on water right to the beer. Trust me, you’ll regret it later. This goes for your guests, as well. You know how much quicker a cold beer or glass of wine can go to your head on a hot day. Make sure to have cool, non-alcoholic drinks available—and some cocktail hour snacks wouldn’t hurt, either.

  1. Flowers

Your blooms won’t like the heat any more than you do—and they also need to hydrate. As soon as you can after the ceremony, plop those bouquets in a glass of water. Your florist should take care of the centerpieces or other floral pieces, but just in case have your planner keep on eye on them to maybe top them off with water before dinner if they begin to wilt. (Bonus if your coordinator is also your florist!) What flowers you choose can help save the day, as well.  In-season blooms that don’t have to travel far will last longer, and the hardier summer varieties will stand up to the warmth better than more fragile ones.

  1. Cake or other desserts

Icing also doesn’t hold up well in the heat. While the sweet treats will taste just as delicious with dripping frosting as not, they won’t make for the best pictures, and you’re bound to get extremely sticky if you go for a cake cutting. Have your baker deliver during cocktail hour, so the cake doesn’t stay out long before the cake cutting. You may even want to cut the cake before dinner, so the cake is at its freshest for the pictures.  And then guests don’t have to wait long for dessert.

  1. Protecting guests

If you plan on spending most of the day in the sun, help guests prepare! Have sunscreen available—in cute little baskets or bins—somewhere near the entrance so they can lather up when they get there. If you plan on using metal chairs for the ceremony, invest in covers so no one burns her bottom. Also try to scope out or create shady areas for people to escape, especially during the cocktail hour.

  1. Indoor options

Remember the heat takes the biggest toll on the old and the young. If you have grandparents making the trip, make sure there is somewhere for them to go sit and cool off. If there’s an indoor element to the venue—even if not big enough for the entire party—think about making it available for those who really need it. The same goes for small children.

  1. Think waterpark!

Maybe not quite that extreme, but if temperatures are really getting up there, it might not be a bad idea to get some fans and misters to go on the tent. I heard of a bride who had a fan underneath the head table to blow under her skirt and help her cool off! Or go with the amusement park theme and get everyone those little squirt bottle fans as favors. If the venue has a hose, hook a fan up to the water source and create your own cooling station. Any way that you have to help your guests cool off will go a long way.

  1. Have some fun

Use the heat as a way to introduce some more casual aspects to your wedding. Give your programs a second purpose by having them printed as fans, so your guests can fan themselves during the ceremony.  Have a late-night snack of popsicles (Lunapops, anyone?), and have frozen drinks at the bar.  Ask your caterer to be sure and bring double the amount of water so you don’t run out.

Summer Heat Infographic

Photography by
Joe Payne Photography
Thirteenth Moon Photography
J.P. Lord Photography
Jamie Blow Photography
Azul Photography

Take it from your Raleigh wedding planner, if you have an outdoor wedding in June, July, or August, your chances of having excessive heat are great.  So plan to pamper yourself and your guests to beat the heat!  Be creative, have fun, and stay safe!

XOXO,

Amy

What To Ask Your Wedding Planner, tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by Jamie Blow Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

A couple of weeks ago, we shared a blog with you about the importance of hiring a wedding planner and the benefits that come from having that coordinator available to you in the wedding planning process.  If you are like me, then you were probably like “I need all the help can get!”  You might also be thinking, “I don’t even know where to begin?” At Knots ‘N Such, we always schedule an initial call to begin the process, and today we want to help you out by giving you the top 5 things you can ask a wedding planner at the beginning of the wedding planning process that will ease your mind and help you find the perfect fit in a wedding planner.

bride and groom kiss under ceremony arbor flowers

Little Fin Photography

  • Question 1: What sort of services do you offer (full day coordination, event styling, etc.)?

Every bride is different in what they need for their wedding.  You want to find out at the very beginning what services are offered by your wedding planner and whether those services meet your particular needs.  If you know going in you need both a full day of coordinator and event styler, you want to find out upfront if this is something that is offered from the planner or how they can meet your wedding day needs.

  • Question 2: Can you create a timeline that tells everyone involved in the planning process—other pros, members of the wedding party, to-be-weds and families—what to do and when to do it? 

Timelines are super important to ensure the smooth flow of your wedding day.  The more vendors you have, the more that timeline setup can become a bit complicated.  Talking through that with your wedding planner and seeing her role in that process will help ease your worries, and if offered, take that task off of your plate (especially if your day of timeline is tight due to travel or venue restrictions).

  • Question 3: Will you coordinate arrival and set up of vendors? If so, what does that look like?

Like with the timeline, seeing what your planner offers in terms of coordination with other vendors is important to know up front.  What role do they play in finding those vendors?  What role do they play in contacting those vendors before the wedding day?  This will ensure that communication is open and clear between all parties involved.

  • Question 4: What’s your secret for staying calm under pressure, and how do you handle day-of disasters?

Take it from me, many times weddings may seem easy breezy from the outside, but there are many blocks holding that image together.  Every person handles stress differently and asking this question upfront to your planner will give you insight into how they remain calm and handle the unexpected.  Their calmness hopefully will transfer to you in the wedding planning process and at the time of your big day.

  • Question 5: What will our communication timeline look like up until your wedding?

Finally, it is important to know when and how often you expect to hear from your wedding planner.  These expectations will help keep you on track and hopefully trust in your wedding planner’s process. This will also help you so that you can relax in the time leading up to your wedding and avoid micro-managing the person you have put faith in to create your vision.

Modern Wedding Ceremony at 21C Museum Hotel

Thirteenth Moon Photography

Hopefully talking through these questions will help you find the perfect fit in a wedding planner and make your planning process a bit easier.  Here at Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist, we would love to help you in both your wedding planning process.  Contact us today!

XOXO,

Amy

The Importance of Hiring a Wedding Planner, tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by Brian Mullins Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

You have thought about your big day since you were a little girl.  You had that secret wedding board on Pinterest even before you met your fiancé. Then it comes time to plan and pull your vision together, and you are at a loss for words.  Enter a wedding planner, like Knots ‘N Such.

River Ridge Golf Club Ceremony

Photo by Azul Photography

  • Help Establish a Wedding Vision and Stay on Track

One thing that a wedding planner can do for you is to take your vision and realistically craft a wedding experience that is both fantastic and attainable.  They also are a wealth of creative ideas that maybe you have never thought about or even had on your vision board. They are your advocate for your vision and will stand in the gap to make your day’s dream come true.

  • Help Establish and Stay on a Budget

A few weeks ago on the blog, we talked about bride’s with a budget.  A wedding planner can be very helpful in establishing a realistic budget, broken down by categories.  Then being a voice of reason to stay within the confines of that budget.  Before even hiring a wedding planner, I strongly recommend setting aside the fee for a planner to be the voice of vision and the voice of boundaries.

  • Help Establish and Stay on a Schedule

I think back to my wedding day and the biggest thing that caused me stress was establishing a schedule.  Taking your personal schedule and matching that with the vendors you have hired.  A wedding planner will work with you to establish a schedule and be the coordinator on day-of to manage that schedule, so you do not have to be getting your hair done while trying to communicate with the DJ.

  • Help with Vendors, Contracts

Related to the previous point, a wedding planner will be the liaison between the bride and the vendors/contracts.  This will help in the preparation, day of, and post wedding planning.  A voice that is on your side will be able to pull together all the previous categories: your vision, your budget, your schedule, etc.  Trying to do this on your own can be a harrowing task and lead to being stressed on the day of your wedding. And your vendors will thank you for providing someone to keep the day on time and organized. Everyone works better when they know what to expect and have a plan in place.

  • Help Reduce Stress on Day of Wedding from Updos to Exits and Beyond

Speaking of the day of your wedding, a wedding planner will be able to help reduce that stress and anxiety.  This will allow you to get your hair and makeup done in peace while enjoying this time with your bridal party.  They can coordinate the ceremony and reception, so all you have to worry about is showing up, having a great time, and then exiting by the light of sparklers.  One more thing that a wedding planner can do for you is the post reception coordination (for example, making sure the gifts make it into your parent’s car or that the florist’s vases are saved so you don’t have an extra fee).

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In conclusion, today on the blog, we hope that we gave some helpful, practical tips of the benefits of making the first hire for your wedding day to be that of a wedding planner.  If you are looking for a wedding planner, who could also double as your florist, please contact us at Knots ‘N Such today.  We would love be your advocate that makes your dreams come true!

XOXO,

Amy

 

History of Marriage Ceremony, tips from Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist

Feature Image by Jamie Blow Photography. Knots ‘N Such is a Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

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Today, we’re sharing a guest blog from our friends at Charleston Carriage Works. It’s full of fun facts that will make you smile!

THE WEIRD HISTORY OF THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY AND MAKING IT YOUR OWN

Strap in, this is going to get a little weird. Marriage. As old as the institution of marriage is, it hasn’t changed much in the millennia it’s been practiced. Especially in recent history, we’ve seen tired repetitions of the same handful of wedding motifs. What was once a cause for great celebration is planned, timed, and pragmatically coded to follow the same pattern.

As a matter of fact, weddings as we have them today are attached to some pretty strange, often unsavory historical practices. We’re going to sift through history, traditions, origins, and ways to break the mould and make your wedding something that’s better than routines based on ancient procedures. Marriage is so much more than doing things the same way, it’s about making your journey with your partner something uniquely about the two of you.

Get ready to step into the time machine as we look into the past to explore some of the historical origins of marriage that are still practiced today. Knowing a little history will take you a long way when you’re stumped thinking of ways to make your special day more than a mere cookie cutter duplicate of hundreds of thousands of other couples’ special days.

A LITTLE BIT OF CONTEXT

Marriage is such a broad topic, it’s not possible to cover every single aspect of it. It’s barely possible to trace its origins entirely at all, because cultures spanning the world have iterations of marriage or the union of two (or more) beings laced throughout their mythologies, legends, and folklore. The traditional wedding ceremony practiced in the United States has certain elements that do have a traceable past and many of them are repeated today, remixed to fit modern society. It’s helpful to know a little bit about where your ceremony comes from. Some of it is cute, some of it’s strange, and some aspects are particularly barbaric; any way you cut it, the history of marriage is littered with truth, embellishment, and some things that’ll leave you scratching your head wondering why human beings are so weird. Let’s dive in.

ONCE UPON A TIME, IT WASN’T REALLY HER DAY

We’ve seen television footage of, and probably some real life experiences with, bridezillas. Those monstrous wives-to-be who freak out and obsess over every detail no matter how minute, stereotypically shouting something along the lines of “it’s my day!” You know the ones. And grooms aren’t exempt from being monstrous, but this applies specifically to women as we look back, because men are monstrous in an entirely different way.

A long time ago, marriage was anything but the bride’s day. It began as a financial transaction solidified in a social exchange called marriage. Wedding guests bore witness to the exchange, making the contract legitimate. Suitors would first come to a young woman’s father and offer gifts to him in exchange for his daughter’s hand in marriage. They’d basically pay for a wife-to-be and if the father found the price is right, she’s now belongs to the suitor. It’s a little more complex than that, but that’s the basic gist of the marriage exchange.

Fathers of families in lower social standings would often do this to raise their own financial status, boost their social standing, and/or combine families with a wealthier house. The point is, the girls to be married generally had little or no say in the matter. Today, when you see a father walking his baby girl down the aisle to marry the dapper looking guy at the other end, it’ll be adorable to see as there isn’t a dry eye in the place. However, it began as a father literally selling her.

THE WEDDING PARTY WASN’T ALL SHOPPING AND SPEECHES

Wedding parties are incredibly important to brides and grooms alike. They’re close friends, family, and foundational support during the process of wedding planning. Matching dresses, flowers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, showers, gifts, ring holding, the list goes on. Originally, these parties held entirely different roles than being a supportive group that makes heartfelt speeches through misty eyes. It was once a much more dangerous task than enduring bride-and-groom-zillas.

GROOMSMEN:

Continuing the theme of a marriage not being about the will of the girl involved, there are a couple accounts of the purpose of groomsmen and both of them involve sword fighting:

  • The more barbaric account is of the groom and his squad of groomsmen kidnapping a girl from her village/family and the groomsmen would be responsible for fighting off her defenders whilst the groom-to-be would carry her off.
  • The less barbaric account is that when a girl was given to her husband-to-be, his groomsmen would be responsible for the bodily protection of the groom. You know, just in case angry fathers tried something heinous or jealous suitors who were turned down felt like hacking at the lucky groom. The groomsmen would stand in the way and fight for the groom if it was needed.

In both cases, the groomsmen were responsible for protecting the groom. The best man was generally the best swordsman, greatest warrior, or something of that ilk. Because who wants their best man to be a mediocre swordsman, right?

Speaking of swords, traditionally the standing arrangement of bride-on-the-left and groom-on-the-right was for sword wielding purposes. Now, it’s little more than a few words included in the marriage rite when the guests are asked if anyone objects to speak now or forever hold their peace. A long time ago, objections were common and a lot more violent. If someone were to object violently, the groom had to have their right hand free (because apparently no one was left handed) to sweep a sword in defense of their bride whilst pushing the distressed damsel away from danger with their left. Our only question is, where’s the best man in all of this? Isn’t this his job?

BRIDAL PARTIES:

Because ladies are inherently queens and marriage was stacked against them, bridal parties were selfless on an entirely different level. While groomsmen were busy defending the groom, the ladies stuck together. The bridal party dressed to match the bride for a couple reasons:

  • It was a common belief that evil spirits weren’t a fan of marriage and would try to attack bride and groom. If both bridesmaids and groomsmen were dressed as each other, they could more easily fool the malevolent spirits who would attack one of the decoys.
  • Much more realistically, those men who were turned away by the bride-to-be (or, more often than not, her father) would less often attack the groom–because of his band of sword wielding ruffian bros–and more often attempt to kidnap the bride. The same dressing came as a way to confuse the kidnapper, so one of the others would be taken and the bride would not be. Talk about sisterly love.

CROSSING THE THRESHOLD:

We’re going to hear a bunch about evil spirits when talking about archaic superstitions around marriage, but the groom carrying his bride across the threshold carries a few connotations:

  • The bride was supposed to display that she wasn’t excited to be leaving the safety of her father’s home, so she would be dragged across the threshold symbolically (though often this was anything but symbolic).
  • Those pesky evil spirits would still be trying to sabotage the married couple, so in a final attempt it was believed they would wait at the floor of the entrance to the home and attempt to get to the bride through her feet. Therefore, her husband would carry her in. What happened to the groom’s soul? We’re not sure.
  • Finally, in remembrance of those kidnapped brides and bridesmaids who were carried off against their will, this would be used as a nod in memory and honor of their sacrifices (recent or historic) for the safety of the new bride.

YOU CAN THANK THE QUEEN FOR THE WHITE DRESS…

The white dress wasn’t a thing until Queen Victoria. Before that, brides would try and boost their visible financial status by adorning themselves in the most expensive things they owned. They’d stack on layers upon layer of their highest valued clothing, jewels, furs, any potentially wearable valuables that made them appear wealthy. Remember that marriage was treated as a transaction, so brides (read: fathers of brides) would be made to seemwealthier than they might have actually been. Nothing like starting off marriage with a little deception, eh? Then in 1840, Queen Victoria got married and wore a spectacular white gown. People far and wide went nuts for it, and here we are now, having television dedicated specifically to saying yes to the dress.

…AND THE POPE FOR THE ENGAGEMENT RING

The engagement ring is an ancient Roman custom in which women wore rings with small keys attached that signified their betrothal. However, it’s unclear that this only applied to marriage because some cases inferred friendship or general caring. Think of it like a friendship ring or a best friends bauble that could bear romantic or platonic significance.

But in the 13th century, Pope Innocent III widely declared that there be a waiting period between betrothal and marriage. During this period, the betrothed couple would wear rings to signify their commitment to each other. Given the power of the Catholic church, this idea stuck, and shortly after that, so did the mandate that wedding ceremonies be conducted in a church by the appropriate religious figures. That engrained notion to judge certain engagements as “too brief” comes right from the Pope.

Why diamonds, now? They seriously don’t have to be diamonds, but we’re easily stuck in our ways and follow the example of old royalty, mimicking their moves. In 1477, Austrian Archduke Maximilian had a ring made for Mary of Burgundy, into which he had set small diamonds in the shape of an “M”. Diamond engagement rings and monogramming all hit the scene at the same time, thanks to Archduke Max. Less cute is the fact that the wealth needed to make this happen made diamond engagement rings something that was reserved for royalty and aristocracy for hundreds of years until, eventually, diamonds became more accessible.

DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT

What are some tweaks you can make to your wedding that’ll change things without jarring the foundations of the earth and scaring guests away? That depends on your level of attitude, but we’ve got some modern suggestions that are certainly different from what most people are used to.

GENDER ROLES, SCHMENDER ROLES:

Pulling apart the patriarchal construct that marriage used to be, wedding parties 100% don’t have to be gender separated. Bridesmaids and groomsmen can be easily switched to bridespeople and groomspeople. Play with punny names and display your friendship outside the ancient confines of gender restrictive social behavior, it’s 2018!

BE YOUR OWN QUEEN:

Ladies, now let’s get in formation. Queen Victoria might’ve made the white wedding dress a thing, but you’re not her, you’re your own queen. The guys have been wearing pretty much anything to their weddings for a long time now, it’s your turn and you have more style options. Rock something different than the white dress millions of people are looking at. Say yes to whatever makes you shine, that aisle is your runway.

Take a page from the Vikings. Neither bride or groom in ancient Viking weddings wore any clothing of particular importance, but the bride paid close attention to making their hair look magnificent, as well as having an elaborate crown. Similarly, the men didn’t focus on suiting up, but bore an ornamented sword, axe, or hammer to the ceremony to honor Thor. Look into your own family history and see if there are elements you can add as a gesture to your own heritage while reaching beyond traditional wedding practices.

OFFICIANT:

You don’t need a priest, judge, or any sort of legal or religious authority to perform a wedding. Legally, you’ll need to have the proper paperwork done (obviously), but this can be done in an office. The ceremony itself is about having someone speak to the couple being married, someone who knows them and can speak deeper than any officiant reading out of a book. Have a friend, family member, or anyone close to you both lead the ceremony. The signatures and legal formality can be dealt with either beforehand or afterward. Make your ceremony personally relevant.

DO IT BACKWARDS:

A newish version of eloping is coming into play as a clever move for couples who don’t want all the fanfare and expenses of the traditional wedding. Some have planned a “wedding” date as a time they are married legally in a very small ceremony, leaving immediately for a honeymoon. Upon their return, they celebrate a reception with an intimate group of people, keeping the whole thing as tightly knit as possible.

Those are small examples of how you can take a pre existing structure and add some personality. In reality, the amount and style in which you seek to make your ceremony unforgettable depends on the you, your spouse-to-be, and the guests attending your wedding; don’t be afraid to try new things as you embark toward your new life.

REMEMBER TRADITIONS, INFLUENCE MEANINGFUL CHANGE

Now that you know some of the weirdness surrounding a ceremony that’s been contrived for thousands of years, what can you do to change things up? You’ve likely been to numerous weddings that are a song-and-dance you can recite backwards and forwards. What makes people so apprehensive to break tradition and make their wedding day something that people won’t want to fall asleep to?

The answer in changing the wedding game such that it fits your desires and sprinkles in much needed originality lies within the hearts of the lovebirds tying the knot. This day is for both of you, don’t worry yourselves over what people think of your ceremonial decisions. In a way, the most evil spirits that attack brides, grooms, and wedding planning are those of people who forget that it’s not their place to control a marriage that isn’t their own.

Remembering traditions is important to tracing where we came from and how we do things. Most importantly, what to hold on to and what to let go. The idea of marriage is wonderful, the way humans go about it can be admittedly less than wonderful. While we’re not stealing brides and having sword fights in churches, is there much difference in the way weddings now are often more about spectacle and commercialization than the celebration of love between two people?

Making your wedding day special requires planning and a thorough understanding of the mutuality of love to make the day as long lasting as the love you’re both professing. How you make your wedding unique lies completely in this. When tempted to think it’s your day (either of you), remember that it’s not. There are two of you and you’re celebrating both of you. This shouldn’t detract from the details and what you’re aiming for in the celebration, because, face it, who doesn’t also love a well-thrown party? We know we sure do.

Now that you’ve shaken your head at the preposterous past of some of the ceremonial marriage practices perpetuated today, it’s time for you shake things up a bit. There might not be evil spirits attacking you as you’re preparing to get married, but there’s an undeniable funk that can surround wedding planning. Chase them away from your day and plan something that reflects the charisma, quality, and journey of the love between you and your spouse-to-be. One thing is certain: as old as marriage is, love is older and it’s stronger.

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I know today’s blog was a bit longer but I thought it was some great material when it comes to wedding planning.  If you are ready to plan your wedding your own, contact us today at Knots ‘N Such, Raleigh Wedding Planner and Florist.

XOXO,

Amy